good question about being all in.. She said she was, now I need to make certain. Words like you all have pointed out about me dont translate into action so easily...
this is a lesson in psychology, I wish I could skip.. it hurts too damn bad.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
WAW called, she is NOT going to TKD this is her usually big night and she told me is going to make Fajita's and wants a family night.. she wants to let the emotions relax and not go to TKD.. (whose emotions? her and the OM? maybe?)
BIG deal for her not to go to TKD.. does make me think something happened between both of them
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
WAW called, she is NOT going to TKD this is her usually big night and she told me is going to make Fajita's and wants a family night.. she wants to let the emotions relax and not go to TKD.. (whose emotions? her and the OM? maybe?)
So she's respecting your wishes which is good. Her actions are lining up with her words. You need to acknowledge it but don't go all "melty man."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I have on MP... I have 2 sessions left.. I am saving those arrows.. I will probably sked one for later this week..
Good. It sounds like you are at a critical juncture here. A DB Coach might say that you are going into the healing phase. Not a good time to be melty man, but not a good time to rub salt in the wounds, either.
WAW asked me to pull the truck from the sale lot. She said it is not for sale.
She came home we had a nice dinner. I asked why she isnt going to TKD? She said she wanted to spend time with her family. I didnt pres it. I told her I aprpeciated a family dinner.
After dinner took a shower and then she asked me to take a shower so we could cuddle. Yea I know alarm bells but I did and we did... I told her that it was too soon and she agreed, and we did talk alot about the R and the M. We also discussed a lot about communication and setting boundries.
She told me she would NOT be talking to any men, divorced or married and she wanted me to trust her again. I noticed our wedding picture and all of our rings on her dresser, and she said she has been thinking about all of this for weeks, but didnt want to let me know.
She said she went out on Saturday and Sunday to look at houses and she saw them empty and not homes, and she said that is when she realized that the M deserved a chance to be saved.
So there it is, and she came willingly, on her own, and appears to be respecting my boundry of NC with EA OM.
So should I look at Piecing now?
She asked me to take our rings to be cleaned and asked if I could take her engagement diamonds to be inspected. I said I would.
She also wants to go on a dinner date / Beach walk on Friday.
I am cautiouus still.. and I told her I would be outta here iif I find out that there is any thing still going on, she told me that she told the EA OM in September that she needed to figure out what she was going to do and deal with it. I dont think I have gotten the whole story, but that is what MC can help with.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
Seriously!?! Didnt we suggest waiting for any heavy talk for at least 48 hrs. You didnt even make 10. Others suggested weeks. All you are doing is teaching her how easily she can manipulate and flip you.
Please go back and reread the suggested responses and DO THEM.
