He would be WISE to have a SERIOUS talk with her and get down to the bottom of HOW SHE REALLY REALLY FEELS about it
"Have you ever thought about having it done? I would be fine with whatever you feel is best for you."
Doesn't mean she'll do it. It's how she feels right now, she wants to feel supported to choose what she wants. Don't try to talk her out of it let her decide. Turn into the skid.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
