You've said it all above. LET HIM. Period. This is his deal. I wouldn't bother to tell him you've decided anything. Dance around the subject. Continue on your life with your kids as if nothing is going on, as best you can.
Come here to vent, to let off steam. Avoid the R talks right now with H.
Drop the ball. If he picks it up and runs with it, well, you go through the motions. If not, if he just stands there and stares at it, then you know where he's at. JMO
