In a nutshell since Saturday when i found out that she was going out i had left the house to calm down, this was Halloween for our town and she said i was punishing the kids for her actions, i told her this is how holidays will be when were divorced and she said we can be mature about the holidays and both be there even if we are divorced. I did come home and we did argue and it did happen in front of the kids, i even told my kids we are going to be a different family and aksed my daughter if she knew what her mom had been doing the past three months (Very wrong of Me). I did tell my wife that night i would file on Monday. Sunday morning she tells me she is sorry, starts crying is all huggy with me that day.
Monday i ask her if she is willing to work on the marriage, she says i have been for a year and i hurt her deeply how i spoke in front of the kids. I told her her behavior was not acceptable and i would no longer accept it, she told me she is not going out to the bar anymore, but not sure if that will fix anything between us, she said it caused to many problems by her going to the bar and she was better than that.
I also asked her if she is willing to talk to someone again and she does not want to, asked her if she is going to be transparent with her phone and FB and she said she does not want me looking at her stuff all the time and making comments about it, cannot remember exactly what was said. I really believe she is not willing to do this because she thinks i will have gained control of her and got what i want.
I did tell her i had contacted a lawyer and she seemed suprised and wanted to know why.
I do not think there was any PA between her and this other guy, just someone for her to talk to and swap how bad their partners had been to them.
