I agree with Johanna! If dumping her was an option, he probably would have done it already! It's really not constructive.
Anyway, I don't think that feminism has much to do with it. I know lots of HD people that don't take their husband's names or don't shave or won't consider walking into a Victoria's Secret let alone wear any lingerie. I mean, I am sure that there are LD feminists out there, but I'd also bet the ranch that there are also LD stay-at-home mothers who bake cookies and took their husband's names. From what I am seeing, there is no "profile" for either a HD or LD spouse. While they have common practices and we have common reactions, this is a melting pot of different people from different backgrounds with very different beliefs.
