What she said^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^. You are between a rock and a hard place. No matter what you do, trust me, it will be wrong. We are driven by our need to nurture and protect. It's ingrained, and after we've done it so long for our husband as well as our children, well, it's so hard to let it go.
The legal part is scary, yes, but it isn't the end of the world. But again, let him do the legwork. If he wants it, go for it.
You have the hard part of taking care of the house, the kids, and, LO & BEHOLD: YOU. Make some time for yourself. Do things for you. To include the kids or not.
