One thing thats weird that I don't get is why am I so angry all of a sudden?
I've been depressed and upset and wanting a miracle until yesterday. Once I made the decision I didn't want access to her computer and wanted to know as little as possible I started getting angry. Now I am just filled with anger and disgust.
I am standing up for myself, taking control of my world, and moving on.. but I don't want to be angry all the time anymore than I want to be depressed all the time.
I hope this to is a passing emotion.
You're probably still depressed, get yourself some counseling to deal with the depression, get out of the house, away from your wife, if she like the OM so much, let her have him, you get out and start some social interaction with other women, you will soon find out there are 1000s of women out there perfectly suited for you as well and you won't have to put up with this kind of disrespect on her part.
You've found out about OM, no more snooping now, there is nothing more to find out.
Does she know you know about the OM?
If not confront her, tell her you know about him and that she should be with him and you're hoping she moves out ASAP. Then tell her that instead of asking you for money to get a lawyer, she should ask the OM for money, he can pay for her lawyer, she can get her divorce and then they can be married and EVERYONE will then be happy.
