Ok, first I will tell you that I have had similiar conversations with my H during his A and it was incredibily painful. Of course, he enjoys inflicting this pain on you. It feeds his ego. Two women are vying for his attention. You have to put a stop to it! NOW. Looking back, those conversations were a mistake and didnt' help me or him.
Second, I'm sitting here trying to wrap my brain around what I just read about your sitch. I read the entire thread. This man clearly doesn't understand what marriage means or what a wife is. He actually stopped the car with you in it and invited her to join you?? I mean he REALLY doean't get it.
The question is....do YOU? Do you see what is wrong with what we're all reading? If you haven't got the DB and DR books, please RUN to the store and get them. Read and re-read them. Also, get Relationship Rescue by Dr Phil. They will all help you get clear about what a healthy relationship is and what you need from a husband.
FYI- he is not just having an EA. He moved in with her. If you think he's not sleeping with her, I have a bridge to sell you. Same goes for OW1. Quit letting him lie to you and use you. You deserve so much more.
