Lance, thanks for the info. I did some reading on liminality, and liminal depression. I think it's important to broaden my perspective on what this whole journey/experience with my wife...whatever labels may apply. I came across this website that speaks of 'mid-life crisis' from a Taoist perspective. The link is here:
At the bottom of this particular page are handful of links to other pages/articles about mid-life changes, transformations, crises. These particular stories really resonated with me, and alot of what I read fit with my personal philosophy, and how I perceive my personal experience with my wife.
Right now she's still 'flat-lining', and shows no obvious anger, depression, etc... On the contrary, what I've been observing lately is that she seems to have these random 'light bulb' moments where she seems to suddenly become aware of particular realization about what she's done [wrong] over the last 1+ year. For example, a couple of weeks back, she made this random comment to my son that was totally out of context to what was going on at that particular moment. We were discussing homework with our son, chasing our daughter around, and just having light, casual conversation. At one point, seemingly out of the blue, she turns to our son and says to him, "Gabe, remember, when you make a mistake and realize it, you have to take responsibility for your actions and not repeat your mistakes." The comment completely struck me because:
1) it was completely out of context to the 'light-heartedness' of the situation (i.e. she didn't say it to scold him about bad grades, etc...); and
2) Although it's a moral trait that I firmly believe in, it is something that has never fully jived with her personal belief system. For example, when she was involved with a married man when I first began to know her 13-14 years ago, I tried to impress upon her that it was a mistake to be involved with a married man, and that, although I was happy for her that she broke things off with him, she should ensure (for herself) that didn't do it ever again. She always used to rationalize that affair by arguing, "Well, I felt in love with him, so I wasn't doing anything wrong to be with him even though he was married. I broke up with him for other reasons (she liked me, he treated her bad, etc...) Fast forward to a year ago, and she's repeating her history. Fast forward again to her comment a few weeks ago, and I'm like, "Huh?!"
