Rockin' and Rulin' My World

[Deep]

Rocked ... that you was a you of the past. It won't ever happen again that way, simply because.

Detached is good - detached however, doesn't mean being detached from reality. And there's good reasons to be affected by practical concerns of H's going to pieces. Take care of business first and tell him you expect the same from him. Leave the M / feelings / future to later. Make it blindingly clear to him that he is not to mess up the kids and finances more than he has already done.

It's not about getting even, being a b****h, helping him etc. It's him getting to a place where it makes sense for the 2 of you to be together, and happy being so. If you ever get together again, it's because it's healthy for you first, and then also healthy for BOTH of you.

If you think he deserves this much, make it clear to him what you need to see to even think about it, and help him understand that. The rest is up to him.

And by the way, the last time I was at a women-dominated bash ( a long time ago I admit) I seem to remember the tips were pretty good. :P