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Huh?


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Piecing - 10/21/2010
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Yea, I didn't understaind that either.

So does anybody have any advice dealing with this sitch when she doesn't talk and basically ignores me.

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Let her go. Get on with your own life while she's gone. IF she comes back, then you can work on the R.

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Originally Posted By: Starsky309
Originally Posted By: sgctxok
Also---I believe you should stay in Piecing.


Why should he be in Piecing, if his wife wants a divorce and isn't working on the marriage? confused

Starsky


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Speak for yourself, Coach. I'm a harmless little 70s TV cop, in blue nylon running shoes and a bad white-guy 'fro. cool


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Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
Huh?


Never mind. smile

Just leave where he wants to be. Labeling and classifying does not give him a choice.


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The main reason I didn't stay in piecing was I didn't get very much feedback. And was told to come here.
This is where the experts are.:)

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Originally Posted By: Bobby
Hello, just a quik rundown. 1 yr. ago W annouced she was leaving our marriage and she was going to pursue a relationship with someone else. She moved in with her sister.
I told her after almost three months that if this is what she wants that we should finalize things. Actually "she was with me or without me", because when we did see each other we got along so good.
Well she moved back in at the end of Jan. but slept in seperate rooms. Things were slowly improving until her sister moved away in august. She said it was like empty nest syndrome all over again. About 1 mo, ago she annouced she wasn't happy and that it would be better for both of us to end the mariage.


None of this would indicate that you should be in "piecing", that's where couples are working together to rebuild their marriage, I read none of that in your post.

It would seem you were working at it,
she had other plans that you didn't know about.

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Originally Posted By: Coach
Originally Posted By: Starsky309
Originally Posted By: sgctxok
Also---I believe you should stay in Piecing.


Why should he be in Piecing, if his wife wants a divorce and isn't working on the marriage? confused

Starsky


Cuz we're meanies. mad


oh boy, another thread soon to "disappear" ;-)

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Originally Posted By: sgctxok
Instead of diagnosing depression and MLC....let's look at specifics.

What are her complaints?

When things are not good, what does it look like to a fly on the wall? What are you saying and what are you doing?

You are in a good position to start getting baby steps and build the love. You can do it.


I'll also add what have you done to fix your part of the marriage breakdown? What are your complaints?

In other words, why are you here?

Maybe other people know who you are, but I don't, so what is up with your sitch?

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