Wife abandoned me...Now What?

[MrBond]

"wanted to spend every waking moment with each other. "

This is the "romantic" part. Of course reality can't match that, but it's the "idea" that got her excited. When you would tuck her into bed, you sound more like a dad than a husband or a lover. And it's a lover that she wanted.

Fact is that you can't make someone love you.

You've got two options: 1) Cut all contact and make yourself scarce to see if she notices. or 2) Go back in your memory to the very first time you were dating and start treating her like someone brand new. Get to re-know her first.

You could also try doing number 2 first, try it for a couple of weeks and if that doesn't improve things, go for the first option.