Ib, I'm so sorry about getting the papers. I know that was a terrible blow. I can sit here and tell you that it's only paper, but right now I know it hurts so much.
Sweetie, I want you to know that when we oldtimers try to get you to keep moving forward, it comes from having been exactly where you were.
We got stuck and backslid and everything else. We just want so much for you to feel as little pain as possible. So we try to nudge you forward so that you do not stay stuck any longer than you have to.
First of all, I know that I am a success story. My marriage has not yet been saved. Maybe it never will be. Who knows? But, I have become who I was meant to be. My son has a relationship with his father that they forged without me being in the way or hindering it in any way.
Whenever I had to deal with h or my sitch, I always kept certain things in mind. I knew that I wanted to act with dignity and honor. I always had my son's wellbeing in mind. I knew that I never wanted my son to feel worried or insecure. And I would treat my h the way I wanted to be treated.
With those things in mind, it made it easier to know how to act and what to say. Soon, it was how I lived.
IB, you are doing great. Really. We just want so much for you to get to the part where you are feeling ok, where you are detached and living the best life you can, where you have found IB.
