Mila, yes XH is still in Replay but at times I've thought he might be peeking out of the tunnel. Not going to hold my breath.
Originally Posted By: missherlove
It seems counter intuitive, BE HIS FRIEND.....for real. A real friend would ask him why the woman he is dating is not the one for him.......No one sits around and goes on and on to someone of the opposite sex about how great thier mate is, if that were the case they would not be with you.....THEY WOULD BE WITH THIER MATE. DUH.
MHL, big push back today from XH. I hadn't heard from him since last TT game (last thursday). That's pretty unusual. If I can read between the lines, today I found out that he is angry with me.........Anger is a passionate emotion. I'll take that. H/XH never showed anger, always stuffed it, so this is a good sign.
Anyway, I sent XH my weekly update about my monday night TT league and asked if he was still game for playing TT tomorrow night. He replied:
"I would be up for that with a caveat; the boundary I would like to set is no discussion of my past, present or future relationships. I didn't appreciate some of your conjecturing on my future marital possibilities. Make sense?"
There was a little jokieness before and after to lighten the tone.
........So.......... I thought this was interesting because I KNOW I didn't mention M at all. I journaled the convo reported on page 9 of this thread (10/29/10, paragraph 5) right after I got home. Pretty sure I only said 3-4 sentences on the topic of GF#2.........This makes me think that XH is really angry about (1) my question about keeping secrets from women he's in R with, (2) my comment that he's really good at starting Rs but not good at what comes after that,.........or (3) that GF#2 has been bugging him again about M........or some combination of the 3.
I replied: "Your boundary shouldn’t be a problem. I’m honestly not sure what you’re referring to when you used the phrase “conjecturing on (your) future M possibilities”. To my recollection, the M word didn’t come up at all. Don’t worry, be happy. See you at 6pm then!"
I suppose it was bad DB to disagree with his memory...and then "don't worry, be happy".....I meant it to be funny but after reading it again it sounds a bit dismissive.
Anyway, it sounds as though the R, such as it is, survived that little storm. I actually think it's great that he's angry. Maybe he'll yell at me tomorrow. I'd like to see some passion from that guy..........Time to go get that flirting book.
General question: if a man is angry at a woman, are there any no-no's where flirting is concerned?
