I came home tonight. SHe had done a ton of research on lawyers and apparently discoverdd that with out my help she wont be able to afford one. She started asking me if I intended to hire one. I told her it depended. SHe pressed the issue and told me she was going for a low cost alternative. ( IE DIY ) I didnt commit to anything and told her to do what she needed and I would respond how I needed.
She started to press me about money and taking control of the accounts. I told her it was my pay check and I would do what I needed with it. She said it was our money, and that she didnt trust me to share it that she felt she needed to keep an eye on it. I told her I had talked to a lawyer briefly and I knew I didnt have to give her squat other than whats nessecary to take care of the family because it was my paycheck.
She got really frustrated. I told her I didnt want to argue but thats just how it was. I said this is what you wanted, to be seperate, seperate people have seperate finances. She said I dont trust you to share the money.
I kept my cool.
I told her before I left that despite this that ultimateley I wanted her to be happy and I hope she gets what she needs for that.
This is the most shes taken action so far. I can tell shes stressed about the money.
Even though I played it cool there I am freaking out inside. I am at the gym working on my GAL.
