then went on about how she was not a B1tch and how the only thing I should blame her on is leaving and that I never took any responsibility for her leaving etc etc.
What's the message there? What's she fishing for? Do you recognize the mind reading?
She wants an emotional connection, that's the reason for the drama.
I have no idea why the anger or what she is fishing for. She blamed the breakup on two things
1. My 11 yr old son and her conflict with him. I tried to resolve this but she wouldn't work with me and just wanted to dominate. her friends and family agreed with me on this as it was happening and tried to reason with her that she needed to soften her approach.
2. My desire to stay active. During the first few years she was very keen on staying active but then gave up. She always said that was something she liked about me but then turned it around and said I was ignoring her. It was like she was just fishing for excuses and reasons. Most of the times i was doing sports (with the kids) she was working shifts. this reason only came up last week 5 months after the bomb.
The frustrating thing for me is i have no real reason what happened here except my suspicion of an A and the info on that has been very confusing.
She constantly tries to badmouth me to her friends but they are having none of it and have stood their ground which prob frustrates her even more.
I don't know and cant "mind read" her reason for leaving but just don't understand the anger especially as she doesn't seem to be having any second thoughts that i can see.
