putting my big girl panties on

[flowmom]

You have clearly done a lot of work on yourself, and in such a short time.

Luckily, I have been working on myself for a long time. Of course the separation shook me to my core, but I already had some personal strength to draw on. I was doing a lot of work on 180s before the separation even though it was unexpected (even though there were marriage problems). Working on myself since separation involved shifting my focus, but it was part of a continuing process.

I am curious about the approach being taken by the counselor regarding procrastination, since I have struggled with that at times as well. I am personally averse to taking drugs as well, so I am wondering if a cognitive approach is being taken.

Based on my goals and my starting point, we agreed on a 6 week course of Brief Solution-Oriented Therapy using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Life Coaching. But interesting she seems to feel that there is a role for medication where depression and ADHD are involved, even though she doesn't diagnose those or prescribe medications. She is tailoring the therapy a lot to my personal issues and patterns. I have read a lot about procrastination and my understanding is that it's a multicausal and complex issue for those who have significant, chronic problems.

I was so terrified of losing my STBXH that I didn't take the risks that I should have taken to be true to myself.

Perhaps there might be a connection between this fear and procrastinating in other areas.

Absolutely. Living in fear and problems with decision-making contributed to many past failures in dealing with major life problems including marriage issues and stuff that I was procrastinating on (esp earning/financial).