Update.

Have not contacted W nor have I heard from W for three weeks until yesterday. I had to call W to extend the listing on the house. We talked for about 20 minutes. Conversation was fine. Talked about house and agreed on things. I then emailed her the document to sign (needed by my office) to extend the listing. She mentioned the agreement we signed (her agreement) when I first listed the house three months ago. It was the agreement her L drafted where I agreed to use my commission towards the mortgage. She asked me if that automatically gets extended too and I said I hadn’t really thought about it. She didn’t mention it again during the conversation.

She hadn’t emailed me back the signed listing extension (my copy) so I left her a voice mail this afternoon telling her that I needed the signed listing extension before I could extend the listing. She emailed me about 30 minutes later, said she was sorry and she was in a meeting at work. She attached the signed listing extension document. She also attached an extension of the agreement her L drafted. All it says is that I continue to agree to use my commission towards the mortgage during the extended house listing. She asked me to sign her agreement extension and email it back to her.

What bothers me is that she clearly was waiting for her L to draft the extension of their agreement before she emailed me back my listing extension. It bothers me that she just couldn’t be up front with me yesterday and tell me she wanted me to sign her agreement extension. By the way she never once mentioned yesterday or today that she filed for D.

So now I feel forced into signing her agreement extension too. If I don’t she’ll be mad as hell. I never agreed to it yesterday when we talked and she never said she wanted to extend it. It’s not a matter of me not wanting to use my commission for the mortgage…of course I will still do that but it bothers me that she just can’t be up front with me. Obviously there’s still no trust on her end.

I guess I’m looking to see what others think here. I should just go ahead and sign her extension too right? She did email her signed copy of my extension and I guess she figured I would sign hers and send it back to her. Maybe that’s her way of showing me some trust on her end or maybe I’m reading way too much into it.


M 38
WAW 36
Together 19 years
Married 12 years
Bomb/Separated Oct. 09
I love my wife
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