Yoyowife no more,....single baby, yeah!

[Yoyowife]

Hi Friends,
It's been a whirlwind around here. The end of school kept me so busy with paperwork. I was also busy preparing for a divorce hearing.

My lawyer had her ducks in a row. She had hired a top-notch appraiser and a certified valuation accountant. We had a teleconference with my XH, his lawyer and CPA. It was really kind of comical. His lawyer was complaining that we had experts and they did not. After my accountant presented all of his findings, there wasn't much that could be argued. We settled right then on the phone and didn't have to go to court. After the phone was hung up. My lawyer stated, "Well, that was almost anti-climatic." LOL

I came out very well. I got the house and my vehicle which are both paid for, all of my teacher retirement, and a sizeable sum of money. I plan on doing home improvements and investing the rest.

As for my personal life. It is going well. I have been dating a man for two months now. He is a true gentleman. We get along very well.

Sorry for my absence. I have had computer issues. Take care friends. Life does get beter.

[fightingirish]

Hey Yoyo... Found you!! I'm SO happy for you, I knew you would have no problem finding a man, your a true gem!!

As for the divorce, I believe everything happens for a reason, and I can guarantee he is kicking himself in some form or another... I would have loved to be a fly on the wall, or phone that is LOL.

Life is just so short, and I know you will make the best of it, and be happy. xxoo

T

[NoCodeBlues]

(((((Yoyo)))))

While you and all of us had very much hoped for a different outcome to your ordeal, particularly in the beginning, I think that we can all agree that having it over now is another signpost that your life is moving forward again and that everything is upwards and onwards from here.

May God bless and keep you as your new life unfolds.

Please keep us informed on how you're doing. You're not getting away from us, just your former H.

[kat727]

Hey Yoyo!! I have missed chatting with you! Glad to hear things are going well. Is this the guy that is always bringing you flowers?

Hope everything keeps getting better for you.

kat

[karen43]

Yoyo, I'm so happy to hear how great you're doing, and I'm not very surprised. You deserve to have a wonderful man who treats you well-I'm glad you found one!!! Happy Fourth!

Karen

[Lotus]

Hi Yoyo. Thanks for the update. So where does this guy fall in the alphabet? Are we still on B?

[Yoyowife]

Hi all. Great to hear from everyone. I promise to try to do better.

Kat, it is the same guy who sends me flowers. We have been seeing each other around two months now and I get flowers weekly.

Sarah, I'm out of order with the alphabet. His name is Mr. R.

The thing with going through infidelity and divorce it is hard to settle into a new relationship. Mr. R is wonderful,very attentive, full of compliments, opens doors, all the things a gentleman does. Only problem is...I got so used to being treated so poorly and berated that I have a hard time of accepting his compliments without making a negative comment. Yes, I know we all deserve good things to happen to us, I'm working on simply saying thank you.

After going through this unwanted journey for nearly 4 years I have become very independent. I think Mr. R thinks too much sometimes. I think he would like to "rescue" me. His past relatonships seem to have been with needy women somewhat.

I'm taking days one day at a time and not rushing into anything.

Hugs to all of you. -- Yoyo

[saffie]

Finally found you!!!!!!

Glad things are going so well

[Yoyowife]

Hi Friends,
It's been a while since I was on here. I have been reading and trying to do some catching up. It breaks my heart to know that so there are so many new posters on here.

Life is good. My girls are doing well. My job is going well, my students continue to make me smile daily. My dad had surgery recently because of prostate cancer, but it turned out very well. The surgeon was able to get it all.

I am at a place in my life that four years ago, I never thought I would achieve. I can remember when my H walked out on me I thought it was the end of the world. I fought and did so many things wrong to make my marriage work. Could I have done anything differently to save my marriage? Possibly, but I finally dropped the rope and started living for the present and the future.

I dated a man this summer that was a true gentleman to me. He was a prime example of GAL. He had an XW who once she learned that he moved on and was happy in a new relationship decided she had to have him back. She continuouly called him, cried, and texted him wanting to know what I had that she didn't have.

It definitely created problems in our relationship. I had enough drama of my own in the past to last me a liftetime...lol. He did not like my independence because he was used to needy women. We broke up and they got back together. This "time" they were madly in love and were going to be remarried. Sadly though, it seems their honeymoon ended before they had a chance to be remarried. He texted me yesterday telling me it didn't work out with them and he was glad I was happy with the new man in my life. He also threw in there if things didn't work out with new man and myself, he was around. Really????

A couple of months ago I reconnected on FB with a man I knew in college, and we started dating. He is everything I could ask for. He is intelligent, kind, and loving. He admires my independence. I am happier with him than I have been in a long time. Time will tell, but I think he's a keeper.

Oh by the way, XH is still with OW. So much for the fog lifting and them only lasting 6 months. LOL I am at the point that this no longer bothers me. Yes, it bothers that they broke up two families, but I no longer desire to be with him.

[kat727]

You already know that I am so happy for you. Our ex's may never get it and if they don't that is just too bad for them. I think it is much more important that our kids are thriving and that we have found our own way through the mess they left.

Cheers to you hon!

kat