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Ok, new one's on me!! Whats tagging and gas lighting??

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Tagging = seducing you to see if you are easily controlled.

Gaslighting = deliberately doing odd or deceptive things, and then convincing you that you are crazy to think those things are going on.


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D-filed 5/27/2010
Piecing - 10/21/2010
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LOL, so far so good. Went over her place for my b-day and it was great. I sense nothing being hidden, very sincere and insists we get a key for her place Thurs night. She wants us to have make and have meals togther at her place and she had me stay. Great b-day.

Now my biggest issue is myself. As I tried to sleep thoughts about things pop in my head. Tomorrow she see's Co and next time we will go together. I am on call next W/E and told her she can do what she wants with her new friends or cousin and she insisted she would rather spend non-party time with me.
M-today 49
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Moved out 1 week later
9 weeks things are looking up

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So, you acquiesced to her power play on Thursday nights, I see . . . smirk

Not a good way to start off the hopefully new marital dynamic, IMHO.

Starsky


M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m
BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

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Hey Stars,
I'm gonna give her this Thurs, as it is after her Co session and we should talk about it but next Thurs its trivia night and I will see how she reacts.

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Sounds like a plan.


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Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
Gaslighting = deliberately doing odd or deceptive things, and then convincing you that you are crazy to think those things are going on.


Gaslighting is the worst!

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plans galore, she wants me to buy a mini shaving cream to keep there, razor, already gave me stuff to bring back to the house. I am on call next weekend so I told her she does not have to hang out with me, she can do what she wants and she said no, I don't need to go out I can just do things with you and you can work from the apt.
I'm nervous but I also see a lot of good signs. Saw her S tonite to pick something up for her since he lives close to us. We were talking about his S's b-day (he turning 4) and she invited me to his party at chucky cheese. I said I hope this is not wierd for you and he said what was weird was us not being together. She also wants to spend Thanksgiving together.
God works in strange ways...
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No kids
Bomb labor day W/E Om confirmed
Me telling her I want D 2 weeks ago
9 weeks later reconcile??

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I think its time to go to piecing and keeping up the PMA, while rebuilding the trust we lost. I thank you all for your support over the past 9 weeks. My 1st marriage I fell on my face and did not listen to the folks here. I begged, I pleaded, I blamed, I used the kids as the reason we should have stayed together.
I learned alot.
We have alot of work to do and she is willing and open.
Carry on, and pray.

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Good luck Rondo, keep us posted every now and then.

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