If it's not all about the stall, then someone should lay out to Pensa exactly what he needs to do, when and if he needs to go to MC, and how long he can expect this to take. It can't really be about playing hard to get a for a few days.
PB to W: "Clearly you are going through a lot of transition. I am going through some changes, as well. We need some time and help to dig in all of this dirt and what got us here.
I will not begin to do any reconciling until I have a transparency and no contact agreement from you. No contact means no contact for any reason. There is not a reason I would accept. Transparency requires no locks on your phone and access to email. If you cross those boundaries, I will begin interviewing lawyers to file for divorce. Non negotiable.
I will work with your schedule so we can have time with MC on a regular basis while some of this dust settles.
I'm not comfortable with a physical relationship with you at this time. Your behavior up to now has been somewhat unattractive and that won't change until trust is rebuilt."
Then, PB ~~~ remember all of that GAL advice? It's still relevant! In fact, you already have plans to meet friends at a sports bar this Saturday to watch Alabama play LSU. Or whatever. But you are NOT walking around waiting for HER to enhance your life. You are doing that all by yourself. She can be a part, or not.
That's a start. Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
