I know you are right. I have managed to get down to only 1 person who is kind or removed from my circle of friends and family. I talk to about the details og my sitch, but I think I need to stop even that because H will have some contact with them if he comes home. I don't dish on the details, but I am learning that even the general topic makes for TMI with most people.
Maybe I should write myself a 'script' and stick to it. The details are getting more ugly now that I learn more, but so much is still unknown. I should add that to my to-do list for my next IC appointment.