WAW left on Independence Day not communicating #2

[pookie69]

HIH,

Too many emotions in that e-mail.

[hurtinhartford]

I know...It was more of an airing out knowing of what I would like to say, but understanding it is not how I should respond back.

This probably better:

I am available after 5:00; however, every day this week I am booked. Since our assets and debts are separate, what is it that you think we need to mediate?

[TimeHeals]

I am available after 5:00;

If you have to go see a lawyer, do you think that "I am available after 5:00" crap is going to fly?

Just saying.

[hurtinhartford]

Time,

I really do not need to see a L. Based on the L's that I have met with the D should be relatively simple and all of them recommend to have her file and that I could retain them for the time it takes to review the docs. She could easily file on her own, but she does not want to because she is afraid that she might screw up the paperwork. Therefore, my stbxw wants to go to a Mediator because it is cheapest out for her and have me pay.

I know the 5:00 statement is petty, but I have catered to this W since I have known her. She is a self-centered, selfish person who only thinks of themsleves and who I figure will always have R problems throughout her life! And Time I'm not DB'ing to get her back any longer. She works from 3:00 to 11:00 so she wants to schedule meetings that do not have occure with a Mediator when it is convienent for her.

[bustorama]

Git er dun

[hurtinhartford]

Okay busto,

I could file and tell her, "I already filed and that she should be getting served soon."

[TimeHeals]

could file and tell her, "I already filed and that she should be getting served soon."

Have you?

I would think you might have to go visit a lawyer before 5PM (Mon-Thurs) to get that ball rolling.

[hurtinhartford]

Time,

I have met with a L, but not retained. He has all of the paperwork to begin the process. He is the one that suggested that I have my W file. However, I would not tell my W that unless I already did file....no games

[hurtinhartford]

Thanks Time for helping me grow up. This is what I wrote and plan to send to stbxw:


I am only available next Tuesday, November 9th in the A.M. I am curious as to the use of a Mediator since our assets and/or debts are separate and do not need to be negotiated.

H

[hurtinhartford]

So we meet with the Mediator next Tuesday it will be the first time that my stbxw and I have seen or spoken with each other since July 4th. I hope that I have detached enough to pull off calm cool and collected. However, I admit that I did not handle my emotions all that well yesterday and today when she emailed me. Thank god for this site, which allowed me to vent and speak to I was really thinking rather than make an a$$ out of myself to her.