honestly, I probably would have made her work for it a bit harder, I think you're still too easy.
"I'm not sure how I feel anymore about you and your relationship, your affair made me rethink everything. I need some time to consider my options and find out what I really want now, not sure if this is it anymore...."
and then left it at that.
In her current state, I bet you she will pull the jekyll and hyde routine so don't be convinced of her initial actions right now, she may be testing to see if it's that easy to come back after all that she's done.
Playing hard to get isn't a bad thing, maybe let her worry for a little bit that you're done with this situation, make her work a bit to get you thinking that marriage is a good thing.
meant to read as ".... and OUR relationship", not YOUR relationship, typo and editing has apparently been disabled on these forums.... what a surprise LOL!
I like that. I will tell her that when she brings it up tonight. I wont bring it up. When she does I will asked the pointed question "what changed?, Whats Different?"
Rob, that is what I am preparing for just like Greek said. If I am prepared I wont be taken back by it. I still question the turnaround.. and I am proceeding with maximum caution.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
I like that. I will tell her that when she brings it up tonight. I wont bring it up. When she does I will asked the pointed question "what changed?, Whats Different?"
Rob, that is what I am preparing for just like Greek said. If I am prepared I wont be taken back by it. I still question the turnaround.. and I am proceeding with maximum caution.
alone exxcept last night.. she asked me to sleep in her room, I did but it was simply hand holding nothing more. She asked me to stay when I got up to leave.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
alone exxcept last night.. she asked me to sleep in her room, I did but it was simply hand holding nothing more. She asked me to stay when I got up to leave.
Then yes, sleep in your own bed. If she tries to join you, politely say "If you don't mind, I'd prefer to sleep alone tonite. I don't want to send you the wrong message. Okay?" Not mean, not nasty, but neither apologetic. Just IS.
