Seriously though, you've gone through a lot and now that you're finally here and begining to reconstruct your life and actually enjoying it he wants to drag you back down into the mess again. Very understandable what you feel and I would feel the same way.
Since you were the one who did all the work trying to fix your R with him, you took the time, put in a lot of effort, at this point you know you did everything you could that is why you can feel ok with getting your life and freedom back and living for yourself. In that time you learned a lot about yourself and him- and your feelings for him changed over time. Now that he's pursuing you and hounding you it's even more unattractive. If he would offer the option to you once and then slip into the background and truly work on himself perhaps you will wonder and have more respect and attraction for him. We all learn this the hard way but especially women need to feel respect for their man or else they won't find them attractive. The respect comes from when men respect themselves, sure there are tough times in life and we lose things near and dear to us but we need to process things internally rather than completely breaking down, crying, begging and pleading.
Anyway, you decide what you want to do and you don't have to make that decision now! However, if I were you I'd say to him at this juncture in your life you just need some time and space for yourself, you don't want to discuss anything at this time. Over time if things change you'll let him know. This way if he really wants you back he'll do the work quietly knowing it may work or it may not- that's for him to decide for himself. If not then you've set both of you free. Just my humble opinion.
BTW, I only charge half of what your IC does and my schedule's looking pretty open today...and for the next few years
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
