Effective DBing/ Feedback and Coaching

[ArnieBGood]

Seems like Punchy is "conscious" of his wifes feelings and validated the issues she has with him.

I see it differently. While she may notice and appreciate the changes, she doesn't feel heard or understood, imo. "Issues" are not what require validation - feelings are what require validation.

He is doing the work yet something is missing because one year later it's not working.

Would you say, then, that DB cannot be advocated, since it is not working for him even after a year?

I agree you need to know how to address your WAS issues and the role you have in the M. One is not mutually exclusive of the other you can have healthy boundaries and practice true giving to your WAS. One needs to be wise and strong to pull it off. Most importantly you need to love yourself .

Then we are in agreement.