Thanks, again, for taking the time to help me out. Things are really feeling wrong lately so I must be doing a little something right. crazy

Your post makes a lot of sense. It breaks down the process which I have been going through. I know it's a good and neccessary thing for my own well being. #3 is dead on! I really have to concentrate when my W pushes my buttons. I will often times start to get sucked in only to have to backtrack, calm down and regain my composure. I strive to reach stage 4 while there is still a chance for my family. I do understand that this is for me . I still want to have a new, improved M. Trying to keep in mind the Stockdale Paradox, though. Obviously having trouble but getting better.

Thanks, again. It helps put my learning process in perspective.


Me-43
W-36
TS-10
D-7
S-4
M-11
Rings off-8/16/2010

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