If you think about it, Cadet, it's one of probably only two or three concepts on the entire forum that's practically UNANIMOUS in terms of what people advise.
There is nothing wrong with saying "Yeah, I thought about that, and I've changed my mind. I decided that I'm really most comfortable in my own home, and I'll be staying here."
Starsky
Me thinks that you and I agree a lot more than you might think.
Do what works... how simple. But this is the #1 rule of DB IMO.
Old thread Starsky. How and Why did it get revived?
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Oh, goodie! Jumping on the bandwagon here. It has been posted somewhere that "what works" for a WAW is vastly different than "what works" for a WAH. Can anyone expand on this?
If you think about it, Cadet, it's one of probably only two or three concepts on the entire forum that's practically UNANIMOUS in terms of what people advise.
There is nothing wrong with saying "Yeah, I thought about that, and I've changed my mind. I decided that I'm really most comfortable in my own home, and I'll be staying here."
Starsky
Me thinks that you and I agree a lot more than you might think.
However you may express it differently than me.
jumping in here - very curious to know what you guys are referring to about the 2or 3 concepts. do you remember?
thanks zig
ps - hope this thread gets some traffic and we could have a good discussion on "doing what works"
i think i wouldn't be too off the mark if i said that most of us newbies here have NO idea what that really means.
could we all have a go at it?
also in terms of what works for WAS's , WAH's MLC'ers?
one of my dilemmas is while one is GAL - and i really get that that is crucial, is one supposed to "work on the relationship" in terms of "do what works" while one is detaching?
or ami like the obtuse one here, and that detaching and letting go IS the "do what works" part?
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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
