Double, you seem to be full of empty threats. I don't know how many times you have threatened to file D and not followed through, but just reading your sitch, it seems like it has been alot. What other things in your life have you made these empty ultimatums with toward your W? She has no respect toward you, because you seem to have no respect for yourself. It is unattractive to her. You need to set some serious boundaries, and follow through on them. "W, if you do this, then this will happen" Not an ultimatum, a serious consequence. Who pays for the phone that she is using to text this OM? If it is you, then turn it off. Where is her money coming from that is allowing her to go out of town with him? Not from your family fund, is it? Establish boundaries and follow through. Shock
