One more question: W seems really intent on me dating. She's made comments about how she doesn't care if I do (but I care!) and at the wedding I'm going to, how I should find some "hottie" to dance and hang out with and then last night she mentions again me dating.
I'm nowhere near ready for that (and she claims to not be either), but why does she keep saying that to me? What's the psychology there?
The relevance paradox, occurs because people only seek information that they perceive is relevant to them. However there may be information (in its widest sense, data, perspectives, general truths etc) that is not perceived as relevant because the information seeker does not already have it, and only becomes relevant when he does have it. Thus the information seeker is trapped in a paradox.
An analogy would be a short sighted person, unaware of the condition, would not be able to see the glasses they need, until they have the glasses on their head - which situation can only be resolved by a clear sighted assistant placing them there.
