I will try to repost what I wrote about Online Dating again later. But I want to talk for a minute about age. I wanted someone to be within 3 or 4 years of my own age. Had dated a guy 3 years younger who acted like I was much older - not a good thing. I am MUCH younger in my attitudes etc than many people my age.
Last week I was registering at the PreOp clinic. When it was finally my turn (half an hour in line) the girl sighed as I approached. So I asked if she was tired. (It was later in the day). She said "no, but I'm turning 40 next week and just dreading it". I told her I was over 50 and she gasped and said "No possible way". WOW - that was the sweetest thing and it appeared quite genuine. I am almost 55 as a matter of fact.
Age is just a number. I had seen Josh on the online dating site and thought "he is too good looking and too young for me". Silly...
First off - he was shorter and a bit heavier than he had looked in his photo. But his personality was sweet. And I'm not perfect either. Definitely heavier than I want to be.
Because I was 7 years older than Josh, when he first started chatting with me - I thought he was just interested in talking. Found me interesting. I wasn't even sure he would be attracted to me really. But I was wrong. When I asked him about our ages (after a few dates) he just said "age is just a number. you are far more interesting and have a great attitude about life than most people - that's what matters". Hmmmm...
And about age - having children was a concern for me. Josh was in his early 40s when we met - had never married or had kids. So I approached that one fairly early on. Did he ever want kids? Because in my late 40s I knew that I did not plan to have more. It was possible but not for me. He said he always had thought he would marry and have kids but his frequent moves for work kept him from forming attachments and it just never happened. He said he was ok without having his own and has been quite involved in the lives of his niece and nephews. Now we look forward to someday when my kids have kids and he will grandparent with me. Good thing since my ex is not around much and he is already grandparenting with OW's grandkid.
