Wait for the vets to chime in, but I would say that based on what's happened you probably need to do the "I think you're right, this isn't working," speech. But, and this is important, you need to decide what comes after that. You can't make the speech and then backtrack.
Believe me, I know how hard this is. Most of us do. It's like suddenly being shoved into the Twilight Zone or waking up with a pod person instead of your wife.
