Any thoughts?

[Truegritter]

I will never understand the mindset where divorce is an option. Does anyone value marriage anymore?!!

I am with CD on this.

This is a queation for you.

Does the value of you and your M depend on what your f@cked up W is choosing right now?

You've been at this 3 months...

And you didn't get what you were after?

What was that?

For her to come back and validate you?

You are still caught up in the emotion of the trauma and while you are you won't move forward.

Move forward?

You say you have worked on yourself? Good.

W won't or can't see that?

Who did you make your changes for?

There is more to learn here my friend besides getting what YOU want.

When you took your vows did you say

"I will love you for better or worse

BUT

If you get scared and lose your way

If you get so confused you run away

If you don't give me what I want in 3 months

I won't."

?

Something to ask yourself KEM cause it is only YOUR answer.

Not anyone here.

There is NO excuse for her choices.

BUT

Will you let the actions or inactions of someone else dictate YOUR choices.

YOUR values.

YOUR beliefs.

YOUR promises to yourself.

THAT is where your self respect comes from.

Start planting seeds there and till that ground.

Forget your wife for now...