My Situation - any thoughts or ideas

[sandi2]

After the long conversation on the phone, you feel good about it and sleep like a baby. Why? Why did you feel good about it?

Then the next day it is not what you were expecting.

First, she called me about some scheduling items. I reminded her that she agreed to go to my counseling session next week. She said "ok, but you seem to be pretty good with closure do we still need to do that?" I said "yes please"

The two of you were seeing that sweet phone conversation the other night with different viewpoints. You, for some reason, saw it as a move in the right direction. That's why you could go to sleep. You took it as encouraging. (That is why so many women will start acting cold b/c the man goes crazy at the first tiny sign of R.)

Your W did not see that conversation anything like you did. She saw it as closure. Could you not see her saying goodbye throughout the conversation? It ended on a good note for her, and you were being sweet valadating. She went to bed with maybe some bitter-sweet memories.....but you helped lighten her guilt.

Go back and read that again and try to see it from her POV. That is why she reacted to the C session. She thought the two of you had said your final goodbye.