hang out with him just as friends don't let him expect anything more if you are having a good time enjoy it if you're not tell him he is a bore and go do something else
Well that goes against what everyone else is saying now doesn't it? Lol.
The topiccame up about me 'punishing' him by not wanting to be his friend. This is what I told him. Feedback?
'I do want to make something clear. My decision not to be your friend is not a punishment. My decision was based on how you have treated me for 6 months, and realistically, 2 years. I stopped talking to XXXXX because she disrespected me. She didn't treat me like a friend. Why should I have lower standards for you? You have not only disrespected me, you have lied to me, hid things from me, betrayed me and our vows, walked all over me and taken advantage of the love I had for you. That is not how a friend treats a friend. If friendship was your goal, you should have treated me, and our marriage, with respect.
This does not mean we cannot be civil, and have a good coparenting relationship for our children. However, unless a time comes where I feel I can trust you and your 'friendship' it is in both of our best interests not to go that route. Unless a time comes where you can stop the continuous barrage of hurt you constantly throw at me, we cannot be friends. No, that does not mean the fact that you don't love me, that means the fact that you have no regards to my feelings, or how the things you do and say affect me. So unless a time comes where that can stop, or a time that I am no longer affected by it, I do not want to be your friend. '
Me 30 H 29 DC 9, 7, 2 M 4 years, T 6 years ILYBINILWY Bomb: 8/8/10 He doesn't want to work, I'm slowly getting there too Physically separating end of September
