Hey newmama, what type of things catch your eye about a guy when you decide to send them a "wink"? As a guy who has just started the whole internet dating thing I am curious what it is women look for.
I'll chime in too:
* a handsome face with a lot of character (not generic attractiveness)
* a casual fully clothed full body shot to confirm self-description of body type
* no bitterness about dating, women, exes, etc (you'd be surprised how common this is)
* shows some evidence of passion (often expressed through strong interests or career passion -- but not necessary to spell out career exactly).
* willing to get with the program -- you're on an online dating site...no one likes having to describe and sell themselves but that's part of the deal so don't waste your profile bandwidth on that
* most men are probably not as boring as they come off in their profiles. get feedback from people who know you IRL!
I tried to avoid describing myself, because it often sounds really flat and generic when people describe themselves. Instead I tried to give a snapshot of the highlights of my last couple of weeks. Instead of saying that I like to have fun (who doesn't?) I tried to show how I WAS having fun.
This was my profile...I think I got a pretty good response.
Quote:
"The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity." -- Dorothy Parker
Highlights from my last couple of weeks: Camping with awesome friends at a roots & groove festival. Rare steak and mojitos in XXXX Harbour. Tromping through the bush for a couple of days...survived two bear encounters but got covered in mud in a swamp
My interests and activities include: hiking, unique friends, jazz, global music, rock/pop, nature in all its glory, 20th century novels, the minutiae of daily life, geography, visual art, design, alternative health, psychology of happiness & productivity, spirituality including Buddhism, yoga, community living, urban strolling, travel, dancing, alternative education, and using dinner guests as guinea pigs.
A part-time career and two wonderful children keep me pretty busy, but not too busy for dating. If you're confident, manly, smart, and funny...I'd like to hear from you (35-52 year old XXXX area guys only please).
These are fresh photos of me.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
