Wow, 1 year later? What the hell have you been doing?
It sounds like you really didnt read DB or DR. Otherwise you would have been dark this past year. You are letting her eat cake and being a safety net for her.
And I am willing to bet she is having an affair big time with her work friend. My XW did the same crap and was all smiles to everyone else but me and my Son as well. It classic detachment on her part.
You are giving her exactly what she wants and she has zero respect for you as a man. This needs to end now. You have wasted a year. Tell her to get out of your house and persue the divorce she wants. $hit or get off the pot in other words.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me