The question I have that I guess everyone asks at some point is how long do you keep going with this?
The depression has to stop today!
when my wife had her mid-life-crisis. i decided i was going to have mine at the same time. she did her thing. and i did mine. sold off all my junk, bought myself a cadillac allante, took up racing a j22, got very athletic. starting talking to some people that changed my idea and expectations about relationships.
kids come first and grow up and want nothing to do with you but money, so i made sure popsicle head and superstar didn't have a teenage memory of dad coming home from work and complaining about politics and the lights being on. my daughter and i played guitar until all the kids started hanging out and bringing their instruments to the mcqueen's garage. we played a mean 4 guitar version of hot legs. "i love ya honey" and they still play ain't talkin' bout love just to piss mom off. superstar's a jock. we have fun.
which reminds me. the situps. this is the most important thing right now. people might start commenting about boundaries and letting them go. but that is all bs compared to the situps. there is nothing more encouraging about solving your relationship problems then when some chick says "i wish my husband had abs like that." Brittney says she was doing 800 hundred a day, tyson 2500 sit ups per day with a 20 lbs weight on his lap? who knows he beat his wife, but 50 cent who bought his home was competing with me for the best abs at the club. 800 hundred a day is not easy. you are doing them when you wake up feet hook against the bed rails, at lunch with your colleagues asking what the hell are your doing, at night and whenever else you have a chance. add some push-ups and body weight squats to the routine and you are insane.
which might seem like a lot but i have been at this a long time, and the one thing i have realized is it not about her, its about knowing yourself and loving yourself so that you are having a good time and laughing through all of this.
