MILs.....oye. That's why I keep a healthy distance from my eldest sons marriage, even when they hit a rough patch this last year. They know I'm hear, but you won't find me calling either of them to find out how things are progessing, or giving unasked for advice.
Of course this MIL is saying OWis the right one for your H. To say she isn't is saying your H screwed up...and most MIL would put their head in blender before admitting their child is not perfect, or doesn't have every reason in the world for acting like WAS usually do.
She sounds like a very manipulative woman, and your H may never heal until he is able to separate himself from her personality type. Geesh...it must be hard to be him, and find himself in the position he has put himself in.
Him telling you to make the decision ahead of time reminds me of how my H wanted me to make all decisions about family/home, because 'he had enough decision to deal with at work'. I honestly believe they get to the point where they just can't deal...or we've babied (protected) them so much through the years, that they don't know how to deal with home/relationships on their own. It's also a form of passive/agressive, which is basically what his mom sounds like too.
I'm so tickled that your FIL is keeping contact for your sons sake. Mine really didn't have anyone to fall back on (they were young adults, but still suffered, and to this day walk on eggshells as far as their dad) A male role model..who has both feet on his ground is definitely a positive for your son right now. I hope it continues.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
