Thanks for your thought-provoking post. Your last few posts have been mind-bending so my brain is still trying to adjust. Reviewing my old journal entries really DID help me to see how far XH and I have come........while at the same time the passage of time and events have led me to finally take XH off the pedestal I had him on. A horoscope I follow said this today:
"This may not be the most painless time, but consider this a phase of deep cleansing in order to discover something precious.
It’s like when you start to clean a drawer and then you realize the whole kitchen needs re-organizing, and there’s a fine mess behind the refrigerator that hasn’t been swept in years. Then you can’t ignore it, but just when you’re done cleaning, you find the ring you thought you’d lost…"
This made me think that our weekly get togethers could be an opportunity for XH and me to become more honest with each other, in a way we haven't been before. Your suggestions fit right into this in that talking to XH about his unhappiness with GF#2 could be a way to have a R talk with XH without talking about OUR old R. Not sure if he'd open up to me about that though.
I will look for a book about flirting on the way home from work tomorrow. Interesting idea........and I will think more about what you wrote.
