You have grown so much since your first days here...
I still worry about your anger (or lack there of)...
but that is for another day...
I understand that you were happy as a wife and a mother...
I, too, was very happy in that role...
Something I learned, something that makes me a better mother, and will make me a better wife...
Is that now, I am happy with me. Outside of those roles. No, I never thought I had to worry about that before. I was comfortable having my identity attached to those roles. Now, I don't think I would want to go back to being simply so and so's mom or so and so's wife. I want to be Cat, who is so and so's mom and so and so's wife. Cat first. The the other stuff.
Because Cat will always be with me. Those other people, who am I without them? I didn't have a clue. I know now. And it is a very good feeling.
I can't two by four you (even if I am pretty good at it) because I have been watching you get there. I may not post as often, but I do read...
Watching you get to know Irish. Watching you get to like Irish. Watching you grow.
Learn to validate yourself. Learn to trust who you are becoming.
Day by day...
As far as your H, I have a similar story as Brook, years later, my H, hasn't found true happiness. Some days he admits it and others, he says he is happy as a clam. They have to walk their path, just as we have to walk ours.
((((Irish))))
Cat
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
