Earlier this week I had posted some pics of H & D3 carving pumpkins on my facebook page. This was done with his permission, but shortly after H removed his home city & “married” from his FB page. Thought a while about what onyourside2 said on my old thread in ‘affairs’ about the pics were a way of pursuing H. I hadn't even thought of the FB pumpkin pics that way, more as a way to upset OW. Just in case, I'll leave him out when I post the trick-r-treat pics from last night.
I was planning to ask H over for dinner Friday, but I am also rethinking, because I am working hard not to start to chase again. I may just concentrate on seeing the family on my own and wait for H to make the next contact.
I also think that the more time I spend DBing the extended family, the less comfortable he will feel introducing OW to them or spending time with her. I think my disappearing from the extended family let him think he could make it seem like I had abandoned them instead of like he was replacing me. No reason for me to make any of this easy for him. It is his mess and he will have to clean it up eventually.
I have a lot to do right now to take care of myself, and my DBing job is bigger now. I have a whole family to DB!
