Rockin' and Rulin' My World

[ImprovedRomeo]

Sounds like a great party R. My invitation must've gotten lost in the mail- I'm sure

Well you have H figured out right. He's desperate to have you back and looking for an easy 'yes' so he can feel all warm and fuzzy inside and make things easy on him. I understand that he will have to invest a lot of time, emotion and work working on himself and showing the changes so he wants to know that it's not a 100% lose lose. I don't know your background or how you feel about him but I can tell you that your recent apt move (and perhaps some other factors too) has really sent a strong signal to him. Until now he saw you someone dependant on him or someone that needed him but now he's sees that he's not all that needed by you and you're becoming stronger by the day. It's what's scaring him. He's scared you'll soon forget about him and will probably find someone else. Yep, that's what happens!

So the question is are you really done with him? Like if he became who he once was that made you fall for him is there a chance? If yes then tell him, if and only if he can be what he was like back then there maybe a chance. If he's genuine in his efforts then you can guide him, start slow by dating while living apart, do counseling etc. However, if you don't want him back even he made the changes then tell him you're done and he should move on.