how long do you do no contact?

[MrBond]

I gotta ask. So have you changed in any way that he might find you attractive like the OW? If not, then why are you still chasing him? He's not going to want to come back to the same old you.

Knowing what he finds attractive or why he left is one thing. Not changing and expecting things to be different is another. It's the primary principle of DB. Do something different.

It seems like whenever you do talk to him, you scold him for his spending habits, and hope that he feels sorry enough for you to come back. He will not. He will want to come back to someone who is positive and is interested in sharing life together with him on the same wavelength.