Beyond Depression..but still a losing battle?

[awest1217]

I completely understand, and it all comes down to you. To H, he may feel that you are a family, but you don't because you have two different definitions of a family. It really comes down to what you want to wait on. You have definitely made tons of progress and I don't recommend throwing that away, but at the same time, you can't stay where you are forever. TO think about the future and wondering how you can get over the last step, just remember last year you never thought H would go to counseling, get the surgery, initiate anything with you, and not have his own place. All of those things have happened so who knows what will still change.

Hang in there and do what is best for you. Make sure he knows you still want to move forward and maybe at some point carefully tip-toe around marriage counseling and see if he is willing. Maybe as if his therapist does marriage counselling or will suggest a good one. Maybe if he chooses the counselor and feels some control it would be better?

Just brainstorming...hope the week goes well.