Hey PH, I asked her what that was all about? Was it something that just happened labor day weekend and she said yes and it meant nothing. That she is happy to be working on us and building the communication and relationship. The Co said if we want to spend time together to do it. Its been a year of non-communication and its been 8 weeks since she left. It was not for OG. It was because she closed down and needs to open back up. She says she is guarded as I am too but last night we both got a great nights sleep after seeing each other.
Thanks PH, I have so many questions but that's for the Co office. Its tough to be starting over like this. There was no real physical contact except for the kiss at the end of the night.
Thanks Kon, Its hard. As Co told me she was shut down pretty well to life just not me. He said he knows I want to be a racehorse and charge forward but I have to be careful and let her heart open again since its been closed awhile.
Good luck. I'm just wondering why no one else has commented on this............. Hmmmmmm
B/c it's not the real deal and he's not going to listen to it. She's going to sucker him in and then he'll fall on his face--due to him believing she is through with OM and rushing in where angels know better.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I just wanted to share a part of one of my posts from a few months ago when me and my wife first started to try this whole gettin' back together thing.
This was honestly how I felt, and this is how you need to look at it.
Atosup, you're running right back into what caused the problems in the first place. She's calling you at 10:30 then 7:30am. Dude, you're gonna get lost in the R again.
I know you don't want to hear this but you gotta pull back the reigns. I will guess you both had no individual lives, or very little for that past years. You both have to have an independent life and then a together life. It will give you guys stuff to talk about, time to miss each other, keep some of the sexual tension alive.
If you charge forward I have a feeling you guys are gonna be back to square one.
I know you're going to counseling but that doesn't mean a hill of beans if you're not doing the right thing outside of those sessions.
My new quote and mantra:
"Frankly darling, I don't give a damn." <--- oh I so love that!
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Hey Steady and Kon, I hear what you guys are saying. We spent some time together over the weekend and kept it light. Its my b-day tomorrow so she is being sweet. wants to take me out Frday. She made it a point to leave her phone out showed me pics she had taken and things she had done over the last 8 weeks and her apt was small but nice. We have a Co appoint Thurs to discuss the "future" if any? I don't know how I feel and I won't see her during the week really because she is fairly far away and I have my boys during the week. She was real open and honest with me this weekend and she has said repeatly that she missed me. As I said. She has a year lease so we have alot of time to figure out if this could work.
