cheated on, lied to, and now I am moving on

[awest1217]

I knew going in to this that H would drag his feet because he told me flat out "I don't want to be your husband, but I want to still be a family". He really is a piece of work. Sadly in IN, it is a no fault state for divorce so there is nothing we can threaten H with.

I figured he would drag his feet on taking the parenting class which would hold up the D, not on getting info to the L, but this makes more sense because he doesn't want to owe me money, if that is the case. We can't move forward until the L has the number. She needs his current salary to figure the child support and also how much is in his 403b. I wouldn't worry about that too much, but we agreed when he got his job that he would withold extra for both of us because I paid the bills from my check. So his was the "savings" check where we put away for the future, and mine was the right now check. I wish I wouldn't have done that now, but it made sense then because I was expecting to be together for forever.

My L is now going after him for the numbers. I don't know what all that will entail, but about once a week I will call to find out if she has gotten them and the next step. It only cost me $14 to call two weeks ago.

And yes, H does take OW out. He doesn't flaunt her around, but she does stuff with his family and they go on vacations out of the state on every break. That really got to me because he didn't text once to find out how S was. H was insistant that I text him when I left and got to TN (no problem and nice to ask about how S was doing), but after that nothing. I am glad he wasn't bugging me, but with S's horrible pink eye, I would like to see him show more concern for S. Like a quick text on how are S's eyes? Also why was he insistant about the way there and not the way back? Probably off with the OW. Plus I sent him a text of S in his costume, and no thank you at all...

I just hate the inconsistancy. I am doing everythign I can to help S have a good R with H, but if H keeps not caring or checking in with S, then why should I ask S to call him or update H on my own. I am trying to do what is best, but it is just wearing me out.

HOpefully this month my car will get fixed and teh D can get done...