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[gutwrenching]

Sandi -
Just curious, because I know I've read and remember some of your story on how you came back to your H and M and broke it off with the OM which was a long distance EA. My W the same.

I'm looking for any words of wisdom about current sitch where W tells me she is dealing with her feelings for OM. A lot of it is anger and guilt...and that she just needs to deal with it, bury it, put it in its proper place, continue to move forward with us. She said she is upset because she wants to feel nothing about him again...but suddenly there is some guilt and anger. Guilt I think (yes, mind reading here and putting two and two together) because he carried through with his end of the bargain and she didn't. He is in the process of D his wife...but my W didn't carry thru with the D and obviously won't be getting M to OM now.

We had a rough weekend...but talked our way thru it at the end. But in the interim, W said she wished she hadn't said anything to me, wish she had just dealt with it on her own and moved on vice hurting me again and hurting the trust factor that had been building...

Any thoughts on this one Sandi?