Never actually thought I would be here...

[gutwrenching]

I don't think their is a formula for this. Piecing is hard. Me and my W had a real rough weekend.
Communication is key. Both of committing to NOT falling back into old habbits is key. Calling each other out when if you start to slip back is key.
Have you thought about Retrouville?
Are you two trying to open up emotionally to each other?

I wish I had answers for you. My W and I took some major steps backwards this weekend, which I guess is to be expected, but in the end, we re-comitted to each other to continue to move forward and work on M. Difference is that we do talk R frequently.

Things are F'd up for her because she has to deal with the consequences of her actions. Nothing you can or should do about that.

What about OM? That is the one that set us backwards this weekend, so be forewarned. You don't know what happened with OM...that would still concern me. Also, from my experience this past weekend, W is trying to deal with left over feelings from OM that as she tells me, she needs to deal with and bury and put back in their proper place and continue to move forward. She is suddenly feeling anger towards him and wants to go back to feeling nothing. So for what its worth...