So..........my H is buying a house.

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If you don't find YOURSELF interesting, how can anyone else? If you don't find your personality/interests attractive, how can anyone else?

I do have a lot to work on. I need to make time for my own happiness. I am totally devoted to my children. I love to watch them play ball - and with 3 competitive ball players, this takes up a lot of my life.

I will do anything for anyone if asked. I can do EVERYTHING on my own, and do. I am an active volunteer with a group at school and I manage a competitve group of "problem solvers" that my oldest D is a part of - AND this I enjoy immensely.

If this isn't attractive, than should I care? This is primarily who I am. Do I need to jump out of airplanes or join a rock band (to compete with H's) to be interesting? I don't want to be interesting to anyone but myself. This experience has taught me that that is the most important, and this I will work on for myself and to teach my kids that being happy with yourself is important. At this point, this is what I need to work on.

And I don't want this to sound harsh either - I get what you are saying, but whatever I chose to do or explore will be for myself and not to be attractive to H or anyone else. I will post a day in my life later.....